Because our minds are the center of pleasure, our experience of it is totally independent of what is happening in or to our bodies. Our genitals may not know all the warning, stop and go signals happening in the brain, which is more of a reason to understand and adhere to enthusiastic consent. Just because my vulva is wet doesn’t mean my brain is ready to go. None of this surprises me, but I guess I can’t point to a particular time and place where I explicitly learned this.īefore I started dating my first girlfriend, I could’ve seriously benefited from Principles of Pleasure. I admit, before I met her, I thought my whole package was called a vagina and that masturbation was only for dudes (I was 23!). Over the course of our relationship, she offered me all of the sex education I wish I had. Something so beautiful about the queer dating community (for millennials and older) is that we’ve passed education through friends and partners since how-to books, Netflix series and TikTok weren’t really at our disposal.
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